These may or may not apply to you, I am not a fitness expert. I am just on a journey to better health and a lifestyle change. I hope that one of these will help you on your journey to self love.
1. You need to drink more water. Please stop fooling yourself, regular soda isn’t water, neither are sports drinks (just check the sugar content), you need to drink clear, zero calorie, plain water. Find a brand that you like and keep going. As you exercise, you will sweat out water and you need to replenish. It’s good for you!
2. You have to eat. Oh, you mean eat – isn’t that how I got to this weight in the first place? It sounds crazy right? But I learned the hard way, no eating lead to my exhaustion. I was doing 2 hours on the treadmill, plus weights and elliptical at the gym. I spent my nights sleeping like a baby and my days cranky like one too. Eat, but now instead of brownies you are having broccoli. Yum. (I know)
3. Enjoy being sore. Yup. I have a torn meniscus, MS, herniated discs, ripped tendons, all before I ever stepped foot into a gym. Once I got into the gym, my workout included every part of my body, but I never do the same part back to back, so my body is confused and pouts and is sore.
4. Get the right gear. Sneakers, yoga pants, jogging pants, sports bra – sports bra, pedometer and sports bra. My roommate gave me a fitbit, she saved my friggin life!!!!!
5. Don’t let fear of failure keep you from trying something new. The day I got on the treadmill, I almost fainted. Not from the workout, from actually having the balls to get on it. But I did it, and now I love it!
6. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with your body. “You know you should work out your abs”, You should eat rice cakes for dinner”, you have a choice how you respond. But no one has a choice about your body, it is yours – you are only obligated to take this advice, love your body – love it.
7. Find an exercise that you love. I hate step classes, there I said it. But I love dance. I love yoga, but I have a death ray for every time someone invites me to soul cycle.
8. No one is perfect, don’t beat yourself up if you had a cookie or ice cream. Just get back on track.
9. You are not on a diet. You are not on a diet. You are not on a diet. You are on a life style change. Once you change your life style to include exercise, healthy eating, drinking water, and lowering stress – it will become routine.
10. People will treat you differently. Someone warned me about this and I didn’t believe them. Now that I see it, it pisses me off! When I was 80 pounds heavier, people rarely held doors for me. I would go to a party and not get eye contact from guys, and forget about a smile. Men would flirt with me because they thought they were doing me a favor (please) or because they thought I needed their attention. I would go into clothing stores and not be offered help (why would they help me, they couldn’t possibly have my size). Now, people treat me differently, why? I am still the same asshole I was 80 pounds ago! I don’t get it, but now I am painfully aware of it.
11. As you shrink, your boobies shrink too. Ugh. It is a cruel world when at 35 I am contemplating stuffing my bra. I loved my boobies, they were huge and now they are dearly departed. Sports bra fits better though. Sigh.
12. You don’t need a workout buddy, but you need someone to be honest with you about your changes. I once thought that I had to be paired up with someone at the gym to really get going, and then I remembered how anti-social I am. I do have two people in my life that are brutally honest with me and keep me in check. I either seek out their observations and they screamed them at me. It works for me, find your person and let it work for you.
13. Don’t worry about losing weight all the time. I have been around people that are always talking about weight loss, calories, and fitness. Not only do you sound annoying, you appear to be obsessed and you make the voices in my head go crazy. I have seen people have panic attacks when presented with the idea of eating. Stop it.
14. Record Everything. I learned this during my 75th try at Weight Watchers (I am not on WW). Writing everything down helps a bunch when you get stuck. You can look back and see what worked and what didn’t work. I usually will tuck in recipes, weekly or daily challenges, and goals. I also doodle.
15. There is no magical way to lose weight. You have to do both diet and exercise. You know those people that say, “You can eat anything you want, you just have to exercise”, I want to hurt them. It is all or nothing, in this case you have to do both.
16. You can have dinner for breakfast. People will freak out, they may sit you down and have a long talk with you about it, but no worries -like I said, this is your body.
17. Don’t be afraid to be strong. Your body is a temple, build it brick by brick. Your body is capable of some impressive shit. Admire it, challenge it.
18. Learn to cook. I have been cooking for as long as I can remember, I love it. I throw down in the kitchen, that helped me work on a meal plan that was affordable and healthy. When you make your own food it is fresh and you know exactly what is in it. You can avoid a lot of foul ups this way.
19. Embrace protein. Embrace it. I have 60 grams a day, it is hard but I have to.
20. Get off the scale. My friend always tells me, “That is such and ’80’s thing”, getting on the scale creates more stress. Your weight will flux, especially as a woman. Keep going, keep writing, keep going. You will feel the results as your clothing is loose, as your energy goes up, as you start to glow.
21. Fat is not your enemy. All that stuff that says “low fat” or “non fat” is the enemy, the amount of manipulation and chemicals it takes to make it that way is the enemy. Besides you need some fat for your skin and body, you’ll turn into sand paper with out fat. Have some bacon!
22. Stop apologizing. Someone offers you something you don’t want because of your lifestyle, kindly decline, but don’t apologize. What you are doing is for you and only you, it is an act of self love and nothing should make you feel bad about that.
23. Change what you don’t like. Something awakened in me a few years ago, I learned to say no. Some called me selfish, others asked me how. If you don’t like something in your life, do something. It may be holding you back from being more awesome than you already are.
24. There are no short cuts. Get off your ass and do something. Go!
25. You set your expectations. If you want to loose 5 pounds or just tone your butt, it is your business. I have people telling me what number I should get to all the time. I smile and challenge them to attempt to live a day in my shoes. No one has yet to make it to noon. I decide how much weight I am going to loose, because I own my journey – you do too.