@ShashaSelflove 10/20/15 Over It


For about a year now, I have had the following quote on my desk:

“…you have a right to be here. You have a right to thrive. You have a right to extraordinary blessings. You are an Heiress to the Kingdom. You should never feel guilty about receiving that good coming into your life. You’ve put a lot of energy into your growth. Yes, you’ve failed at times. Yes, you’ve made mistakes. But what matters is you kept going. You grew the courage to face another day. So be unapologetic about enjoying the fruits of your labor. Don’t shrink back so others won’t feel insecure around you. Instead, own your highness; shine your brilliant light and be a dazzling example of what is possible…” – Molesey Crawford

It already happened, you can’t take it back. Own whatever happened as part of your journey and either be proud of it or chuck it up to another lesson learned. Just don’t dwell, you have a right to make mistakes, and was it so bad anyway? When you set out to grow as a person, whether it is professionally or personally, the obstacles are going to mount against you. Colleagues will undermine your work, the scale won’t budge, family will chide you for trying and even your body will buckle from the pressure. Don’t allow distractors or distractions keep you from evolving into the person you are meant to be.

Getting stuck on an error isn’t the point of committing it in the first place, the point is to reflect on how you got to that point and what needs to be done to prevent it. Is there someone or something that you need to exit from your life? That entity has pushed you to take on actions that you otherwise wouldn’t have, so why is it allowed to stay? Don’t get me wrong, there are times when you will be pushed and must be to come out of your comfort zone. I am not talking about a push in the right direction, I am talking about those that are around to confuse you and have you going in the wrong direction.

You allow it, either for pity or blindness – either for love or lust. Just think about the things that we have done in the name of love, the fickle flutter of your heart betrays you. You overestimate the one that you long for by loving them, while they underestimate you by lusting you. Many times we are blinded by the fickle flutter, you made your mistake – what you have learned will help you be a better discerner the next time. That was the point of this whole exercise.

It is perfectly alright to make a mistake, to fumble the giant football game that is life – you are learning how to catch the ball and make better plays. We all are. Big hug!

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22 thoughts on “@ShashaSelflove 10/20/15 Over It

  1. Everything, and you know even mistakes are part of growth. Even the ‘bad’ ones are too, they are just bigger opportunities for growth and learning. What a giant leap you’ve taken! wow
    So very appreciate you following me. thanks, Eddie

  2. Great posting, I think being self-aware is so important – things aren’t easy, and I think that to feel joy we also have to feel opposite emotions. To feel happiness, I think you must have had to experience unhappiness, maybe it’s about getting the balance right. Peace, Harlon

    1. Harlon, thanks for the comment! Excellent reflection, we have to have the lows to appreciate the highs. Life gives us the balance so that we can take it all in with grace.

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