This is the time of the year that we become nostalgic, we take a look at what has happened so far and assign hope on what is to come. We examine the pains we experienced and how the sting of those moments continues to be felt. What we take away from our instances will either propel us or stagnate us from the next level in our lives. I say propel because by capturing the lesson, the full picture, the macro and micro – we are able to then grow. Whether what you experienced gave you the ability to mature emotionally, intellectually, psychologically or physically – it was your time to learn from the gift that fate gave you. Did you accept that gift?
Like Jonah, you are going to find yourself resisting certain realities that are presented to you. When you know good and well that life itself is preparing you for the next phase of your journey. Lessons won’t always be painless, they aren’t meant to be free of discomfort. Pain creates a mental footnote – you place a positive or negative indicator on the footnote. If you grew, if you learned, if that pain that you had to experience increased the wealth of your personal investment – than you are obligated to place a positive footnote on that pain. Because it obligated you to grow and many gates are now open to you now that you know how to handle that level of ache.
We go through life carrying around the many weights that life has loaded us with it. That negative connotation to each memory brings our heads further down, sinks our heart just a little more. We aren’t meant to carry around our burdens, our pain or our heartache. We are suppose to learn from those life events and kill off those things that bring us misery. So go ahead and kill a little, remove from your life those people that are around to see you cry. Take out items in your life that limit your growth. Prepare a path to welcome progress in your endeavors.
Take that pain and extract what it was meant for you to learn, don’t just dwell on the actual pain – that is just a marker so you don’t forget that you have been given a lesson.
It is hard to allow yourself to be vulnerable and admit to the pains you have experienced. We never want to be perceived as weak or incompetent. Don’t apologize for being human, kill the sense of guilt for being a work in progress and allow yourself to actually progress. Part of that is replacing pride with humility.
It sounds so cliché, but you aren’t the sum total of your experiences – you are only part of what you have allowed yourself to take in. What you don’t, will simply keep happening to you until you grow smart to the fact that you have a lesson in front of you. Why stagnate your growth? Kill off being your own worst enemy and bring to life the advocate that you can be for yourself.
As you reflect on your personal experience, resolve to allow yourself to grow. Challenge yourself towards fulfillment and never measure yourself against someone else, your journeys aren’t the same. Welcome fate and design a destiny that will give you the bravery to achieve that happiness you desperately seek out. It is going to be tough, that’s why they call it growing pains. Here’s cheering you on! Big Hug!
A very special thank you to Diron for helping inspire this post!