The truth is that we are built for certain things, life builds us up through every challenge. Some of us are good listeners, some of us are good bakers and some of us are trying to figure what it is that we are good at.
As you go through life the list gets narrow of what your strengths are, not that you don’t have many attributes – but there are some qualities in you that you excel at. I can’t tell you how many people have told me “You are a good listener”, I didn’t know that about myself until I found that I wasn’t responding to what was being said. I have a particular friend that always reminds me to kick ass because I am a strong warrior, she is my motivator. We are surrounded by qualities and features that makes us different, yet unite us because we need those of each other.
And then there is this, there are somethings that aren’t for you. You just don’t gel or vibe with this new environment, it happens. We try to force our foot into the glass slipper, but it just doesn’t fit. You try to seek out a mentor or advisor, “How can I make this work?”, you try right side up and upside down and still you are stuck, almost feeling like it pushes you away.
It doesn’t come to you right away, but it takes a huge level of self-reflection and self-realization that is it quite possible that this isn’t for you. Coming to this conclusion isn’t easy and it most certainly cannot be looked at as giving up. You aren’t failing if you have tried your best and realized that whereas this may be a blessing for some it is a curse for you. No matter what it is, you benefit so much from learning how to come to these epiphanies on your own, because when someone else brings it to you – it is usually with bad news.
Staying positive and being able to be open to self-reflection is key in these moments, especially because you want to forge through and complete something that you have committed to. There is something to be said about being able have had the courage to try something that is new. It is also important to understand that you are being built up for something specifically, and this may not be it. No worries, what is for you is on its way, Big Hug!