We have to listen to the radio, the music has rythym and the lyrics resonate with you in one way or the other. The words float around in your head, not completely appreciating what the song is trying to convey. It happened the other day, I was translating the song for a friend who doesn’t speak English and I didn’t completely understand the song until I had to explain it. It was sad, it was a story of heart break, it was moving and as I explained it to my friend – I teared up. We can hear but how often to we listen?
The message in between the words some times are much more meaningful that what is being said. Tone often indicates emotion and silence is probably the loudest message can send you. It is hard not to make this blog personal, I am experiencing both being silent and receiving silence. In less than 5 seconds an offense happened in two directions and now I have to sit and wait. They are quiet, I am quiet and only time will help heal or severe. It is the stand off of short hellos, indifference, delayed replies and worst of all limiting our interactions. I hear what they are saying, they are hurt and their pride is bruised but that was never the intention. There was no good or bad intention, but their experience heard one thing and listened for another. So what do I do?
I allow some time to pass, like water eroding lines down the mountain side, I have to go over the same lines slowly. They are already carved into the stone, the lines of our friendship – lines made by humor, dreams shared and the long talks the sometimes ended in silence out of fear that those dreams may never come true. So, I will have to be patient. Guess what I am really bad at? Being patient. Ugh.
So, lesson learned – huge lesson. Do much more than hear, you body can hear involuntarily. Listen, that takes great effort and dedication. Pay attention to the voice, to the look in their eyes, to the words that are used and when they become silent. Stay positive in knowing that no matter how it turns out, you have given your best effort. Big hug!