@ShashaSelflove 2/14/17 Failing Others


As an introvert I am very particular about the people I allow into my life, not that I don’t like others, I like to keep my circle small. With that being said, I know a lot of people that I am aware of – neighbors, people at the gym, coworkers and people I bump into on a regular basis. Those people don’t know me, they don’t know what pushes me, they don’t know my inspiration or aspirations. They just know the person that walks by and waves hello at a comfortable distance.

To some, failing their expectations of you immediately converts to you being a failure in their view. However, you never set out to be of satisfaction to them. People that attempt to impose their life script on you shock me, why are they so concerned with you fulfilling their goals? Or do they not realize that they are angry that you are doing something they could never do? Think about it.

You don’t have to fit into anyone’s mold or anyone’s expectations of you, you weren’t born to be a carbon copy of everything neat and perfect. You may inspire some conflicting feelings or inspiration, depending on who is beholding you. But be clear, the story line that they are attempting to string together about you is their story about you – it isn’t who you really are. Their frustration will turn into anger and they either will find something else to obsess about or they will live miserably knowing that they can’t get under your skin. Either way, their weight isn’t yours to carry.

What is yours to carry is your integrity, the responsibility to yourself to represent who and what you really are accurately. So that when you are spoken ill of, those listening will know it is nothing but a fabrication. Self love is inspiring those to hold you to the same respect you hold for yourself. Those that do not appreciate that concept cannot appreciate you, which is why they are not by your side. Big Hug!

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7 thoughts on “@ShashaSelflove 2/14/17 Failing Others

    1. Hmm…the best way to explain how introverts are is like this. I like you, I really want to hear from you, I think about you all the time – just don’t like being around you or anyone. Also, texting is better than face to face communication. Face to face is exhausting.

  1. You’ve struck a deep vein of empathy. I too keep the world at a distance, it gives me freedom to study it. The only problem I find is that those aggressively interested people you describe, lacking real information about you,will tend to make up stories of their own. That can sometimes become an unwelcome intrusion, but otherwise…

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