“It’s quite all right, we just didn’t work out.” “Mercury was in retrograde.” “It wasn’t the right time.” Insert cliche saying here…etc, etc, etc. But did they ever take the time to get to know you in the first place? Did they look to find their definition of what the optimal partner is, but still didn’t see you? It’s possible that their view was never on you.
What I have learned from being single is that we walk through the door with an outcome in our heads. Some may walk in with the intention of just being around for a little fun, while others clearly are in search of a life partner. I see the discrepancy when intentions are not expressed upfront. It would be easier on everyone if they were just honest; if they knew what they wanted and weren’t afraid to say it aloud. In turn, the person listening could choose to give it an opportunity or not. It takes true courage to put those feelings into words to formulate the statement of intent. Saying it openly is considered bold and upfront. My question is: Don’t you want someone to be honest with you? I’d rather be hurt with the truth than to be soothed with a lie.
The flip-side of that coin is that there are plenty of people who get into these situations and not know what they want. If you are one of those people, stop. Just be honest with yourself and upfront with the people you are dealing with. At least then the other person can take the journey with you and not have expectations. Or they can choose to let you go, because you’ll first need to figure out what it is that you want.
Both sides of this coin are difficult to be on. But regardless of which side you’re on, at least you’ll be aware of where you are. Stay positive while figuring it all out. It will test your patience, but you’ll be better for the experience. Big hug!
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