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It takes a lot of strength to keep yourself together, when most days you are being pulled apart. Whether it be the daily commute or the struggle to show yourself love – the fluctuating pressure has a heft to it. There is nothing wrong with looking in the mirror and saying “I Love You”, especially when others won’t. Self love isn’t about being self absorbed or selfish, it isn’t about thinking that you are better than anyone – to the contrary it is about allowing yourself to grow through your wounds.
Do you know how hard it is to have the person that you love look at you in the eyes and say, “I just can’t say that I love you, I just can’t say it.” The words almost destroyed me from the inside out, but I had to pull all the strength I didn’t know was available to me and accept that I cannot love someone into loving me back. I can only love myself and only allow people that value me into my inner circle. I have had to learn, through my own experience and by observing those around me. The hardest lesson was to not wait for someone to love, but to love myself that same way that I love others.
If I am saying anything, love you. Love the wounds and the wow that make you who you are, love the struggles you have overcome and the failures that have kept you humble. Love the wrinkle on your nose and how your snort sometimes when you laugh to hard. Love your mistakes, they made your stronger. Show yourself what others can’t, won’t or don’t – life is good because you are learning to be good to yourself first. Big Hug!